Beautiful Black Successful…& Single!

This ABC  News interview came just before the holidays, while lots of us were vacationing and spending time with family. I didn’t hear about it until after it aired, but I could relate to the women in this interview. Although I recently became engaged, I was single for 8yrs before I met my fiance. I cried occasionally because I was lonely and angry  about the fact that most of the men I wanted were interested in women of other races and younger ages. I am not old, by far, but I’m not 22 either. My standards were high, so I lowered them. Even then, the quality of man that I wanted was NOT present until I happened upon blind date, set up by a female colleague.

As I continued in the relationship, I would always tell my then boyfriend that he was holding the Black race on his shoulders.  If our relationship didn’t work, then I was opening my ethnicity options and not looking back.  I felt that if Black men didn’t want us (Black women), then why should I limit myself?

I asked a few of my guy friends why they didn’t go after Black women like they used to and more than one told me ” we have too much mouth”. Really, fellas? Are we supposed to be weak and subservient? It hurt to hear those answers; to realize we have never been the “it” girls in society. But I find solace in knowing who I am. Happy & successful with or without a man. SistaGirlz, open your  options and while still holding the candle for the brothers, remember love knows no color.

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