5 Things to Know When You Graduate College

 

By Dominique Preston

 

 This past May I graduated college with my B.A. in Broadcasting and with any transition comes new insight. Although I learned many things with the accomplishment of graduating, there were five main things that graduating SistaGirlz of the future should keep in mind when that big day approaches.

1) Network, Network, Network- No matter what your major — it isn’t what you know, but who you know. Almost all of my jobs and interviews were through referrals. So never burn bridges and always be friendly.

2) Where did my insurance go? – Myself and many other college students get their health benefits through their parents. If you’re in the same boat, once you graduate those benefits will no longer apply to you. If you have a job that offers health benefits you should look into that or pay monthly for insurance. Not being covered is not a good idea and if something happens it can be very expensive.

3) Always be on the look- Whether you have a job or not always keep your options open. The current economy is not at its best so lay offs are random and have become common. Always have control. Search online for job openings and ask around for leads.

4) Don’t get discouraged- When you graduate, a lot of people don’t find a job in their field right away. Many successful graduates say they were unemployed for months before they found a suitable job. So stay focused and hopeful. This is why budgeting and saving is very important to do while in school so when you graduate you have money to support yourself during this period.

5) Celebrate- With my budgeting I was able to afford a graduation party and a trip to Jamaica. Both cost a lot of money but were more than worth it. It is a hard four years and is something to celebrate. This is a major milestone in your life and you should reward yourself. SistaGirlz, I definitely recommend traveling!

Review: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man

By Shantell Huggins aka Ms Royalty

 

 

 

Apparently, May is the time of year when people break-up. This must have some truth to it because so far I have had at least 2 friends break up with their significant other after a year or more relationship and I have also cut ties with some particular beau’s myself in May. I think it’s because you don’t want anyone to hold you back from “doing you” during the summer.

So, I wanted to better my “game” for next season and I wondered what book out there would have some good tips and ideas. I don’t know about you, but I have heard so much about the new Steve Harvey book, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.” In case you have been living under a rock – the main theme of this book is to know how men act towards women they want and those they don’t want so that women don’t get played.  I just had to read the book myself and tell my SistaGirlz if it has some great tips for relationships and is worth buying.  Here are some key points so far and in the following week I will give you the rest of the book. I want to break it up for you so you can learn little by little.

 

A man does 3 things for the woman he loves: Provide, Protect, and Profess.

If he isn’t doing one of the three, then you may not be the main one or the woman he truly loves.

A man wants these 3 things from the woman he loves: Support, Loyalty, and the “Cookie” or sex.

If you are withholding any one of these from him, he will try to get it somewhere else. “The cookie” is hard to explain because a woman can be a virgin, celibate, or it could be the early stage of her dating. However, if you have always slept with him and you suddenly stop because of your insecurities or his sexual appeal he may look for someone to fulfill his needs.

 

Are you a Keeper or a sports fish? This was one of the most interesting chapters in the book. Steve talks about when men fish they choose which fish they want to keep, cook, and show everyone they got a nice fish. The other fish are fish they throw back into the water.

 

A woman who takes a man’s number but doesn’t give him her own is a keeper; a woman who hands out all her info is a throwback.

A woman who shows her appreciation for all that you do is a keeper; a woman who acts like nothing you do is good is a throwback.

A woman whom a man can introduce to his friends and family is a keeper; a woman he doesn’t even bother introducing to his friends or family is a throwback.

 

If he takes down your number and waits more than 24 hours he’s sports fishing. Because if he calls you right away he is genuinely interested in you and he may want a keeper. (This may work for someone older than 25. Most young guys do the 3-7 rule to not seem like a stalker or desperate.

If you never met his friends, family, co-workers, or any one that may be important to him then he is sports fishing.

If he wants an open relationship and doesn’t mind if you see other people then is definitely sports fishing. If he wants you to be exclusive then he considers you a keeper.

So far, the book has been more relevant to women who are ready for a relationship and are tired of childish games. However, if you are not ready for a relationship you may just take some of the pointers to attract better men for “open relationships.” Next week chapter reviews are, “Why Men Cheat,” “The 90 Day Sex Rule” and “The Five Questions You Should Ask a Man Before You Get Too Deep.”

Want Smooth Summertime Skin?

By Shantell Huggins

 

Remember when I said being fashionable is all about what looks good on your body. Well, the parts of your body that show in those clothes should look good too. This may be difficult to do for certain areas, especially during the SPRING/SUMMER. 90 percent of women have a problem that prevents them from wearing; swimsuits, shorts, skirts, tight dresses etc.  What is it? Cellulite.

Yes, it’s the cottage cheese or dimples that seem stay in our lives like death and taxes. Recently, there have been some breakthroughs to try and cure cellulite but do they really work?  Many people believe there is no “real” cure to cellulite removal even with a healthy diet and rigorous exercise. And it’s not just the big girls that deal with it; you can also have cellulite and be at a comfortable healthy weight. So, I have researched and tried some cellulite removal techniques to help all my SistaGirlz out there. Enjoy!

Endermologie

The Endermologie™ machine offers a non-invasive, non-surgical procedure for skin contour irregularities. The Endermologie™ machine uses a vacuum device which creates suction to immobilize and lift your soft tissues while “rollers” create deep tissue massages to your fat tissues. An Endermologie™ session takes about 30 to 45 minutes and is said to feel like a rigorous massage. It is temporary and costs $75-200+.

Superficial Liposuction

This procedure was first introduced in 1989. It uses lasers and a grating/rasping technique but it can cause severe damage to the skin’s underlying area and create scar tissue. The surgeon has to have excellent technique or serious pain and damage can result.

Soft Tissue Augmentation For Dimples & Dents

With this procedure the doctor will inject a substance that will add bulk to the skin, thus reducing the appearance of the cellulite. It may take the average patient one or two treatments for this to work. I tried it and saw results after my first time.  The doctor’s technique is very important to increase visible results.

Body “Wraps”

 

Supposedly, body wraps don’t make you lose fat but give you temporary water loss. As soon as you drink some water and eat a meal it comes back.

 

 

Creams

 

Creams just don’t seem to work. Some creams may seem to take away your dimples, but you’re just spending a lot of money on lotion!

 

 

RejuveSkin

RejuveSkin works! It uses special tools created by Rejuveskin and a special solution. RejuveSkin’s tools are placed under the skin through small incisions. This releases the skin from being pulled down irregularly to the muscle front, causing those unsightly bumps and dips. The RejuveSkin procedure, all-inclusive, costs $3,000 — $4,500.

*Remember*

Before any type of surgical procedure, including simple cellulite removal, you should research your doctors thoroughly and get good references.

Now, that you know what to do… go out there and look Vicious!!

Modern Woman vs Traditional Man

By Dominique Preston

 

 

Cook, clean, have children, and pretty much play the submissive role; the duties of the traditional woman. I have deemed myself a modern woman — wanting to be a bread winner and being a mother isn’t even on my radar yet. Not to mention knowing very little about cooking and even less about cleaning. Of course this is a problem.  Now-a-days you should be a well rounded person.

Here’s my issue –men telling me that being a modern woman is the symbolic castration of men. I have had many arguments recently with men saying that’s the reason a lot of women are single.  A woman too focused on their career to cater to a man’s well being becomes old and bitter. I am not here to man bash but this utterly disgusts me. With time comes change and usually for the better. How could another human being be against another human being’s finding their purpose and causing needed social change?   

I feel the issue isn’t women’s trend to change but men’s overall stubbornness to change with the times. I always hear what a “real” man is.  A man provides, a man will cheat, and a man must have control. If that is what a “real” man is, then I’d rather be single.  I feel a real man is one who will do anything to make his family or unit work.  A real man is someone willing to compromise and puts his family before his own selfish needs. This goes for real women too.

Submissiveness is not included; I am my own person with her own life, thoughts, body, ideas, and dreams. My role is to be me, not to play happy homemaker for some guy. And at the end of the day, I can’t have my life based off the happiness of someone else’s existence. 

Review Part II: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man

By Shantell Huggins aka Ms Royalty

 

Well, I hope you got the gist of what the book is all about. I sure have and I think it’s a decent book. A lot of it is common sense, but he did have some great pointers. Such as men are simple and the main reason they do most things is to impress women. Also, when they ask a woman for her number, they’re usually thinking of how much to invest and how fast can this woman sleep with me.  This week’s chapters reviewed are: “Why Men Cheat,” “The 90 Day Sex Rule,” and “The Five Questions You Should Ask A Man Before You Get Too Deep.” 

Why Men Cheat

1. Because they can.
2. They think they can get away with it… like by having two phones or lying about their cheating.
3. The biggest reason: There’s a woman out there willing to cheat with him.  There are so many women willing to give themselves up to a man who doesn’t belong to them.

The 90 Day Sex Rule

You should hold out the “cookies” for 90 days if you are dating someone. Steve points out that the rule showcases your willpower and he asks, “Where are the guys you slept with less than 90 days?”…”Nowhere!”

During those 90 days you can really get to know him without sexual activity hindering your perspective.

Waiting does matter.  Don’t think he’s going out and having sex with other women. Men do like to wait because that shows you have class.

Stay focus and do things together: church, picnic, sexy Latin dance class, or a family barbeque.

The 5 Questions You Must Ask Your Potential Man Are:

1. What are your short-term goals? – These are the key elements that make a man.
2. What are your long term goals? – If he has a vision than you will see it and if you don’t agree with his long term goals than you guys make not work.
3. What are your views on relationships- Open, long term, long distance, etc.
4. What do you think about me? He most likely will say your cool, funny etc…
5. How do you FEEL about me? – This must be a deep answer… “I think about you when you’re not next to me… I pray for you…”

 

Now, that you’ve learned most of the rules go BUY THE BOOK and good luck on finding a great guy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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