We Are NOT Groupies!!

                      By Dominique Preston

   This article is speaking to all the SistaGirlz out there that are trying to break into the industry without selling their souls or their bodies.  These past few months has been a very eye opening experience for me trying to pursue my professional aspirations of becoming involved in television production.  I graduate in May so I have been really beating the streets for a job. So the more contacts I make, the more disgusted I am with men in the industry. Not all of them, but a good amount.

It seems when some men in the industry are attracted to you they feel they can speak to you any way they want. As if their money and/or status gives them the right to say the first demeaning thing that pops into their immature heads.  I had a man ask me to come spend the night after only a 2 minute conversation. What the &%^$!!!! In what world is that ok? Excuse my language sistagirlz but I need to get this off my chest.

My skin has gotten a whole lot thicker which I’m very thankful for but this whole game is getting really old.  We are left in the worst position. If we play along with their dumb games you are just setting yourself up to be used and if you aren’t receptive to their advances then you’re being a b*&#@ or stank.

I have been more conscious of how I dress, how long I smile at a person, keeping the conversation strictly business just to avoid any confusion on my intentions and I still am talked down to! I realize a lot of the blame does lie on women too.  For everyone woman out there that will say no there are just as many that will say yes. That is a problem. If you cant recognize how precious you are and let another person, male or female, take advantage of that, breaking in the industry is the least of your problems. 

So any man who is out there who has spoken to me or any other woman who refused to play by your rules, WE ARE NOT GROUPIES. Because a man has status and/or a lot of money does not make them God’s gift. I am an intelligent female who has a lot to bring to the table professionally, if you can’t recognize that then it is your lose. Ladies please stay true to yourself and recognize if you don’t demand respect, no one will do it for you. Have faith that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

 

If you are a man that is not included in this, please don’t take offense. Ladies if you have some advice, please Speak On It!